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If you genuinely want to live an exceptional life take an inventory based on these 10 No Nos to build and maintain a successful relationship...

19 April, 2023

Loneliness has become an epidemic embracing all generations, exacerbated in a highly interconnected world where digital connection is increasingly replacing face-to-face human interaction....

09 February, 2023

Blame has become a danger to mental health. Here are seven steps to learn how to be accountable and stop the blame game....

03 August, 2022

Here are tried and true tools that I guarantee will help you reduce your anxiety. Use them and share them. You can change your brain for the better....

19 August, 2021

If you have the right mental tricks in your toolbox, you can override your brain’s irrational tendencies and handle uncertainty effectively....

30 June, 2020

Do you have regrets? If you are human, you do. Here are 10 Keys to Letting Go of Regret so that you can eliminate stress....

05 March, 2019

Some of the most successful people in the world have coaches. By hiring a life coach, you have the edge to live an exceptional life....

12 May, 2016

The imagination is like a rambunctious, slightly crazy, often out-of-control ‘Wild Child’ who can lose its focus in the blink of an eye. Here are several suggestions to help you harness the imagination to live an exceptional life....

18 May, 2015

Is magical thinking always a good thing? Does it always work? That depends on your expectations and your willingness to put in the hard work....

15 January, 2015

If I guaranteed you would lower your anxiety, calm your mind, renew, recharge, think more clearly, reduce your fear response and enhance your creativity – just by investing two five-minute periods of time, twice-a-day - to meditate - would you commit to do it? ...

16 March, 2014

Full discloser: I actually love the holiday season. Unfortunately, this does not hold true for everyone. In fact, I have been asked on numerous occasions to provide strategies for those who find the whole season quite stressful. ...

21 November, 2013

Sometimes there is a huge payoff when I do something that propels me out of my comfort zone. You might interpret this act as taking a huge risk, like jumping out of a plane, walking a high wire or telling your boss that he, or she, is wrong. In my case, it was playing a game. ...

19 August, 2013

If you are going to make a difference in today’s world, be productive and make a comfortable income, you will have to learn how bring value to other people. To do that, you must become thoroughly familiar with the steps to harness your imagination, explode creativity and generate an idea....

17 July, 2013

The price of success comes from dedication, hard work, unremitting devotion to the things you want to see happen....

18 June, 2013

What if there was a drug that could cure a disease or heal an ailment without any side- effects? What if that same drug could speed recovery from an illness or operation, inhibit infection, reduce bleeding, calm inflammation, control pain, help asthmatics breathe easily, or relieve depression? The drug does exist....

15 April, 2013

One of my favorite words in the English language is ‘creativity’ and one of my least favorite is – ‘sacrifice’. Creativity resonates as full of possibility, adventure and limitless imagination....

15 March, 2013

Text messaging cell phones and computers means more demands for instant responses in communication. The Web raises the bar for marketing excellence and puts constant pressure on business to grab the customer before the competition. The flattening of the world pushes industry to operate 24/7....

06 March, 2013

I love to learn and I love to teach. This article is about a very simple concept. Science shows that we are happiest when we are self-directed, doing what we love and working with others....

06 February, 2013

Here we are galloping towards Christmas, and I am still contemplating what life lessons I learned from being in the thick of hurricane Sandy and how these lessons can be applied to business - as well as life in general. What held me back from writing this article was the complete devastation that many people suffered from Sandy, including loss of all ...

19 December, 2012

The word “imagination” has always resonated deep within my soul. In my imagination, I can go anywhere, be anyone and accomplish anything....

12 September, 2012

There are certain subjects that are ubiquitous in the field of human potential and leadership. But there is one subject that has, unfortunately, been both underrated and neglected - the profound power of ritual. ...

27 July, 2012

Reader warning: The article you are about to read contains some strange, odd and unsettling insights but, contained within this cautionary tale are a number of lessons. ...

07 June, 2012

Defining passion can be tricky, playing with your mind. When you think of passion, you may have images of someone enthusiastically pursuing a goal, preaching a sermon or having a strong sexual desire for someone. ...

31 May, 2012

What if it was possible to enhance your view of any situation at any time? It is. All it requires of you is to learn and practice a very simple skill. ...

29 May, 2012

Blockbuster, Eastman Kodak, and Borders - what do they all have in common? All these business giants failed, but why? Like many analysts, you could come up with a number of logical reasons for their plight - they did not create new products that kept them competitive, failed to embrace the power of the Internet or were not willing to take bigger risks. But, the bottom line is they were unable to recognize and overcome the ...

22 February, 2012

When it comes to communication, the story is everything. Whether it’s selling, leading, managing, teaching or preaching, the power of story is the power of change....

06 December, 2011

You have the capability to improve your relationships, ramp up your ability to learn and increase the quality of your overall experience of life. ...

09 September, 2011

Letting go requires not only a major shift in thinking, but self-awareness and a challenging change of behavior....

15 June, 2011

I was first introduced to subconscious mind in early 1970 while attending a massive convention, featuring motivational speakers and platform notables like the great W. Clement Stone, Zig Zigler, Dr. Norman Vincent Peale and a host of other preachers of positive thinking....

14 February, 2011

Reinvention is a tricky word. What does it really mean? Do you throw everything away and start from the beginning? Do you remold what is already there? Do you create something totally different than before? Depending on the circumstances, the answer is "yes."...

01 February, 2011

Setting goals in general and creating the change necessary to achieve them is not easy. Yes, it is fairly simple to write a daily "to do" list and accomplish the majority of those small tasks. But, when it comes to achieving a breakthrough goal that can make a huge difference in your life, it's often a challenge....

22 December, 2010

Have you ever wondered why some people seem to say the right thing at the right time and get what they want while others fail at persuasion? The subject has always fascinated me. ...

19 November, 2010

Are you lucky? Do situations happen to you that seem to come 'out of nowhere' - events that enhance your life mentally, spiritually, emotionally or socially?...

05 October, 2010

Support means different things to different people. To some, "support" means giving their time, money or both to their favorite cause. To others, the word might be a call to support our troops......

29 July, 2010

Without a doubt, the most difficult thing to let go of in life is a relationship, even a toxic one....

17 June, 2010

Chip, chip, chip, chip. If you're not conscious and careful, this could well be the sound of your dreams slowly being ground away into obscurity. At least, that's the thought I had the other night....

01 April, 2010

I've been pondering the nature of time a lot lately because I have become very aware of how fast time seems to be speeding along....

01 December, 2009

Life can turn on a dime and you had better be prepared for it. Preparation is how you deal with uncertainty, and that is something over which you do have control....

01 November, 2009

“The dream begins with a teacher who believes in you, who tugs and pushes and leads you to the next plateau, sometimes poking you with a sharp stick called “truth.” -Dan Rather, American Journalist The term “teacher” appeared somewhere around the 14th Century and according......

01 October, 2009

“Life’s like a play, it’s not the length but the excellence of acting that matters.” -Seneca, Roman philosopher, mid 1st century AD I just had one of the all time greatest experiences and adventures of my life – with the additional gift of re-learning some......

01 September, 2009

“Retirement at sixty-five is ridiculous. When I was sixty-five, I still had pimples.” -George Burns, Comedian If I asked you what you believe might have the greatest negative impact on your health, what would you answer? You might say it would be pollution, the Swine......

01 August, 2009

“And in the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.” -Abraham Lincoln, 16th president of the United States It’s quite comfortable to be wrapped in our little cocoon of routines that give us a sense of......

01 July, 2009

“To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying ‘Amen’ to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to keep your soul alive.” -Robert Louis Stevenson, Scottish novelist and poet Are you being authentic? Perhaps a better question is: Are you living......

01 June, 2009

“We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations”. -Charles R. Swindoll, American writer and clergyman There is a Chinese symbol that apparently can be interpreted as either crisis or opportunity. Specifically, the symbol represents both danger and opportunity......

01 May, 2009

“At times our own light goes out and is rekindled by a spark from another person. Each of us has cause to think with deep gratitude of those who have lighted the flame within us.” -Albert Schweitzer, physician, philosopher and Nobel Peace laureate How many......

01 April, 2009

“A sure way for one to lift himself up is by helping to lift someone else.” -Booker T. Washington, American educator and author Would you trade your spouse for a job? How about your children, relatives or friends? If the answer is “yes”, I give......

01 March, 2009

“By choosing your thoughts, and by selecting which emotional currents you will release and which you will reinforce, you determine the quality of your Light. You determine the effects that you will have upon others, and the nature of the experiences of your life.” ~......

01 February, 2009

“It’s fear of the unknown. The unknown is what it is. And to be frightened of it is what sends everybody scurrying around chasing dreams, illusion, wars, peace, love, hate, all that – it’s an illusion. Unknown is what it is. Accept that it’s unknown......

01 January, 2009

“In prosperity, our friends know us; in adversity, we know our friends.” – John Churton Collins, 1848 -1908 English literary critic During tough economic times there are certain psychological commonalities that hold true – fear, cynicism, pessimism, self-doubt and life-style reversal. As in the past,......

01 December, 2008

“I see every thing I paint in the world, but everybody does not see alike.  To the eyes of a miser a guinea is more beautiful than the sun,  and a bag worn with the use of money as more beautiful proportions  than a vine......

01 November, 2008

“An individual’s self-concept is the core of his personality. It affects every aspect of human behavior: the ability to learn, the capacity to grow and change. A strong, positive Self-image is the best possible preparation for success I life” – Dr. Joyce Brothers, American Psychologist......

01 October, 2008

“Hope is both the earliest and the most indispensable virtue inherent in the state of being alive. If life is to be sustained, hope must remain, even where confidence is wounded, trust impaired.” -Erick H. Erickson I’ve recently noticed an odd, strange and unsettling wave......

01 September, 2008

“Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength; Mastering yourself is true power.” -Lao Tzu, Chinese Taoist Philosopher “Know Thyself.” The meaning of these two words are attributed to the Greek philosopher Socrates and inscribed in the forecourt of the......

01 August, 2008

“You can’t control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you” -Brian Tracy, best-selling author and business/motivational speaker. You are going to read......

01 July, 2008

“Few people have any next, they live from hand to mouth without a plan, and are always at the end of the line.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson, Poet While in college working on my Master’s Degree, my mentor and friend, Owen W. Smith, said to me,......

01 June, 2008

“If you don’t like something change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude. Don’t complain.” -Maya Angelou, poet I decided to take a day and pump up my awareness by listening to how much people complain. Seven out of ten people I passed......

01 May, 2008

“We must accept finite disappointment, but we must never lose infinite hope.” -Martin Luther King, Jr. Disappointment is just plain…well…disappointing. Unfortunately it’s also a fact of life and there’s no escape because no matter how much we want it, life isn’t a bowl of cherries.......

01 April, 2008

“To be truly happy and contented, you must let go Of what it means to be happy or content.” -Confucius, Chinese philosopher, (551BC – 479 BC) Maybe musician Bobby McFerrin was right when he wrote “Don’t Worry. Be Happy.” Otherwise, he might have written, “Don’t......

01 March, 2008

“One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love.” Sophocles, Greek Dramatic (C. 497-406 B.C) What could be more appropriate for the month of February than to go on a short exploration of love and, perhaps make some......

01 February, 2008

“My one regret in life is that I am not someone else.” -Woody Allen, Actor, Screenwriter & Film Director Every once in a while I see a movie that feels like it was written solely for me. Such is the case with “The Bucket List,”......

01 January, 2008

“There are two primary choices in life: to accept conditions as they exist, or accept the responsibility for changing them.” -Denis Waitley, author My assistant called me with the news that I had just received an invitation to speak in Boston. That’s the good news......

01 December, 2007

“I have found that among its other benefits, giving liberates the soul of the giver.” Maya Angelou, Poet What would happen if everyone stopped giving? What inspires people to give? What does “giving” mean to you? There are particular times of the year that prompt......

01 November, 2007

“Do not disturb your mind … with other hopes and fears than reason may suggest: if you are pleased with prognostics of good, you will be terrified likewise with tokens of evil, and your whole life will be a prey to superstition.” -Samuel Johnson, 18th......

01 October, 2007

“Public speaking is one of the best things I hate.” -Baseball great Yogi Berra You’re hyperventilating. You’re dripping perspiration. Your legs are wobbly and you have the distinct desire to flee. What’s going on here? Are you being pursued by a pack of rabid dogs?......

01 September, 2007

“It’s not enough to be busy, so are ants. The question is: What are we busy about?” – Henry David Thoreau, poet Let’s do an experiment. I want you, right now, to take a few minutes and look around you. Notice and focus on everything......

01 August, 2007

“Guilt is never a rational thing; It distorts all the faculties of the human mind, it perverts them, it leaves a man no longer in the free use of his reason, it puts him into confusion.” -Edmund Burke, British Statesman and philosopher Almost two decades......

01 July, 2007

“We need to get rid of the unrealistic and outdated notion that feelings determine what we do. They do not. When we are freed from that myth, we discover that unpleasant feelings are not simply troublesome, they are informative.” -David K. Reynolds, Ph.D. A Handbook......

01 June, 2007

“Imagination is everything. It is a preview of life’s coming attractions. -Albert Einstein, physicist What would be compelling enough to become one of the most popular ‘self-help’ DVDs to date, a #1 best-seller, plus prompt Oprah Winfrey to devote two shows to explore the subject?......

01 May, 2007

“When you blame others, you give up your power to change.” -Douglas Adams, author, Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy Here’s fair warning: this article just might put your mind into overdrive. Joe and Betsy are on a canoeing trip in the wilderness. They come to......

01 April, 2007

“A leader is a dealer in hope.” -Napoleon Bonaparte, French leader and general Think of three people from the past or present whom you consider to be great leaders. Next, think of three characteristics that made them great leaders. Do this right now -before reading......

01 March, 2007

Are you an addict? Would you know if you are? If you are, is it necessarily destructive? That depends on how you define an addiction?...

26 February, 2007

“Every step you take should increase, not decrease, the breadth of your opportunities.” -Andy Tuck, singer, songwriter Two weeks ago I spoke to a group of people who have, basically, been forced into retirement. Some were ready; some were not. Some were relieved; some were......

01 January, 2007